Today there was a great story about the meaning of flowers (which i re blogged) and at the bottom there was a link for 10 fool-proof ways to “get in the mood” by Womans Day. Now some of them were ok and make sense others where interesting ideas on the things they think get people going. Here is the list of ideas they think will get us all hot and bothered tonight:
- Do your household chores
- Hit the gym
- Take notice when your husband is playing with the kids.
- Go to a bar with your partner and flirt with other people.
- Hold your beloved tight—for at least 30 seconds
- Make a “no touching below the belt” rule.
- Share your sexual fantasies with your partner
- Institute the 10-minute rule.
- Try on a different sex personality.
Now im not to sure about anyone else but the I do not feel any kind of sexy when im cleaning or doing chores. I would imagine that im not the only one who feels this way. Reading the article they say that if you get your chores done then you will feel better about your environment and more inclined to get frisky. I guess that makes sense however doing chores has never led to any extra sexy time for me.
Going to the gym makes some sense, if you look good you feel good and feeling good about yourself and your body is a big factor in feeling sexy and attractive.
Number 4 seemed like a bad idea all around. I do not want to see my partner flirting with anyone else. maybe that should be more along the lines of 4. flirt more with your partner. I think its more important to reconnect and remember the times when you were dating and flirting with each other. I am not a jealous person but I don’t think I would be comfortable, never mind turned on to see my wife flirting with another person.
The rest of the list seemed like pretty straight forward ideas, some times when you’re in long-term relationships people forget how much the enjoy sex and each other. The 10 minute idea is not entirely bad either. There where a lot of responses to the original post by Womans Day from people who didn’t think you should have to try it for 10 minutes. I think that sometimes sex is pushed to the back burner and it gets harder and harder to get it back into focus. It a subjective idea, if you’re in a relationship with someone you love and adore “trying” for 10 is a great way to remind you how much fun you can have with them.