What inspires sexy time with your partner? I recently came across this thought. I started out with the thought of “how do I find more energy for sex”. I searched the internet for what the “Professionals” suggest pretty common things that most people pretty much know. They suggest diet, exercise, leaving work at work,getting enough sleep, blah blah. We all know we need to be healthy and live healthy.
What if you live healthy and you still don’t have any energy or ambition for sex? Well I brained stormed and I realized it’s not as much physical as it is mental. It is extremely easy to fall into a rut and forget how much you enjoy sex. Sometimes all it takes to get in the mood is remembering a time that your partner took you on the couch and fucked your brains out.
The act of sex is 90% mental 10% physical. (well for lesbians anyhow). There could be an actual physical issue you’re experiencing, in that case consult your physician. For the rest of us that seem to suffer from a low sex drive there are tricks you can do to “trick” your body into the mood.
- Talk with your partner, maybe they feel the same way. Sometimes talking about sex gets you both thinking about sex.
- Flirt with her. think back to when you two started dating and you were trying to get her into bed.
- Read sexy books. (our favorite) Either together of by your self reading erotic stories gets your brains on the topic. Our all time favorite is a series by Ann Rice called Sleeping Beauty and the Claiming of Sleeping Beauty.
- Porn is always a great way to spice things up. Today there is porn for any fantasy you can dream of.
- Go sexy shopping. go shopping together for sexy outfits and take a trip to your local sex toy store. Make it a date.
- Set the mood in your home. Now for those of you with children rent a hotel room or get a babysitter to watch your children outside of your home. things like candles, light music (NO TV) and a romantic dinner are sure to get things headed down a sensual path.
- Try a couples message. It is surprising how sensual and stimulating a professional couples massages can be.
These are just tips to hopefully help get your sex life back on track and get you back in the sack with your mate. Please let me know if I missed any ideas and please share what works for you.