10 Surprising Facts About Orgasms

Published 05/14/2012 by Sensi Boutique

Psst—you over there! Don’t be shy…orgasms are as much a part of  women’s health as dental floss—but a lot more fun. For all the things you’ve  been dying to find out as well as things you’ve never even thought of, expand  your knowledge about the “big O” with this list of enlightening facts.

1. Orgasms can relieve pain. Got a headache? Maybe you should have  sex after all. “There is some evidence that orgasms can relieve all kinds of  pain—including pain from arthritis, pain after surgery and even pain during  childbirth,” notes Lisa Stern, RN, MSN, a nurse practitioner who works with  Planned Parenthood in Los Angeles and blogs at Gynfizz.com. “The mechanism is largely due to the body’s  release of a chemical called oxytocin during orgasm,” she says. “Oxytocin  facilitates bonding, relaxation and other positive emotional states.” While the  pain relief from orgasm is short-lived—usually only about eight to 10  minutes—she points to past research indicating that even thinking about sex can  help alleviate pain.

2. Condom use doesn’t affect orgasm quality. In case you’re  wondering if a condom has anything to do with the quality of your orgasm, don’t. “Women are equally likely to experience orgasm with or without a condom,  dispelling myths that condoms don’t make for good sex,” says Debby Herbenick, PhD, a research scientist at Indiana  University and author of Because It Feels Good. “In fact, condoms may  help a couple spend more time having sex, as a man doesn’t have to ‘pull out’ quickly if he’s worried about ejaculating too soon,” she says. If your guy is  resistant to wearing a condom because of lack of sensation, consider manual  stimulation first, before intercourse, so he can have an equally enjoyable  experience.

3. Thirty percent of women have trouble reaching orgasm. If you’ve  ever had trouble climaxing, you’re not alone. According to Planned Parenthood  statistics, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm when having  sex. And as many as 80 percent of women have difficulty with orgasm from vaginal  intercourse alone. Clitoral stimulation during intercourse can help, says Stern,  but so can medical treatment. “Female sexual dysfunction (FSD), which  encompasses the inability to orgasm, is very common—as high as 43 percent,  according to some surveys—and has been a topic of much debate and medical  investigation lately,” she says. “For some women, topical testosterone therapies  or some oral medications can be helpful, but few medical treatments have solid  evidence behind them.” Because FSD may be associated with certain medical  conditions, be sure to see your doctor to rule out things like thyroid disease,  depression or diabetes.

4. Finding your G-spot may improve the likelihood of orgasm. Can  you identify your G-spot? The “G” refers to Ernst Gräfenberg, MD, a German  gynecologist who is credited with “discovering” it in the 1950s, and sex experts  have long touted this area of female genitalia, which is believed to contain a  large number of nerve endings, as the key to helping women achieve longer and  stronger orgasm. But it’s a controversial topic. Researchers in England refuted  its existence recently, even after Italian researchers supposedly found the spot  on ultrasound and published their findings in The Journal of Sexual  Medicine. Still, sex educators like Los Angeles–based Ava Cadell support the  existence of the G-spot, and encourage women to find theirs. While the location  may be slightly different in all women, it’s most often found inside the vagina  and is characterized by a “rougher” texture.

5. Orgasm gets better with age. Sure, there are plenty of things to  gripe about when it comes to age, but your sex life may actually  improve—specifically the quality and frequency of orgasm, reports Dr. Herbenick. “Orgasm becomes easier with age,” she says. “As an example, while 61 percent of  women ages 18 to 24 experienced orgasm the last time they had sex, 65 percent of  women in their 30s did and about 70 percent of women in their 40s and 50s did.” Though the survey didn’t indicate why orgasms come easier with age, we can  assume that as women become more sexually experienced, they have more confidence  in the bedroom and therefore enjoy themselves more. Additionally, the trust and  intimacy that most women experience in long-term relationships can help improve  sexual confidence as well.

6. Women who mix things up in the bedroom have more frequent  orgasm. If you have trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse, consider  switching things up, says Dr. Herbenick. “It is significantly easier for women  to experience orgasm when they engage in a variety of sex acts as opposed to  just one act,” she says. “For example, vaginal sex plus oral sex would be linked  to a higher likelihood of orgasm than either one of them alone. This may be  because more sex acts mean that people spend more time having sex.”

7. A woman’s sexual self-esteem can affect the quality of her  orgasms. Research shows that how a woman feels about her genitals is  linked to the quality of her orgasms. “As a women’s health clinician, I can  vouch for the fact that every vagina looks different and there is no ‘perfect’ way for a vagina to look,” says Stern. “As long as your vagina is pain-free and  you don’t have any abnormal discharge, sores or other medical problems, you can  consider yourself healthy and normal.” Increase your orgasm potential by  increasing your confidence, she says. “It’s important to treat yourself the way  you would want others to treat you—send yourself healthy, positive messages  about yourself and your body.” Another trick: Pull out a hand mirror and take a  look! Getting to know yourself down there is the first step in feeling confident  about your parts.

8. There is an orgasm “gap.” While it’s true that a small number of  men have trouble with orgasm, sex experts report that it’s rare. Instead, a  significant percentage of women report not having had an orgasm the last time  they had sex, even when their male partner thought they had. “We still have an  orgasm gap,” notes Dr. Herbenick. “While 85 percent of men thought their partner  had an orgasm during their most recent episode of sex, only 64 percent of women  reported having an orgasm.” The cure? It’s complicated, says Dr. Herbenick, but  women who are comfortable with and understand their body’s pleasure points can  often learn to orgasm regularly.

9. In rare cases, orgasm can happen without genital  stimulation. We’ve all heard about women who can orgasm while sitting on  a train or while getting a massage, but it’s no urban legend. Experts say it’s a  real phenomenon. “I had a friend who had an orgasm every time she used the  treadmill,” says Stern. “If that happened to all of us, we’d be a much more  physically fit society!” But, humor aside, there’s an explanation for why this  occurs. “The reason for spontaneous orgasms during certain activities is  twofold—increased blood flow to the genitals and vibration of or contact with  the clitoris. The increased blood flow and the general relaxation of a massage  can lead to orgasm sometimes, too.”

10. For most women, it takes a while… Many women take longer to  climax than their male partners, and that’s perfectly normal, says Stern. In  fact, according to statistics, most women require at least 20 minutes of sexual  activity to climax. “If you find that your partner often reaches orgasm before  you do, there are ways to help him slow down,” she says. “Mental exercises can  sometimes work, and so can firm pressure around the base of the penis. If  premature ejaculation is a concern, your partner may want to see a primary care  doctor or urologist to find some techniques that might help.”

Sarah Jio is the health and fitness blogger for Glamour.com. Visit her  blog, Vitamin  G.

Read more: Female Orgasm Facts – Surprising Facts About Orgasms – Woman’s Day

6 comments on “10 Surprising Facts About Orgasms

  • Love it. I’ve actually come very close to having an orgasm without any genital stimulation. It was pretty intense. I’m such an internal person that I’m not surprised. I have to really concentrate and want it to happen, whether someone else is there or not. As for the orgasm ‘gap’, I think a lot of it stems from not only women being comfortable with their genitalia, but speaking up to their partners regarding what they need and what they want. The disappointment in the bedroom is from a definite lack of communication. Great post, thanks for sharing! There can never be enough information out there about orgasms…

    • I def agree that at least for women I think the “gap” comes from not knowing their bodies and from not communicating with their partners. Thanks for the comment glad you enjoyed my random thought of the day 😉

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